Dating great guy but no chemistry
And Laura: I picked the name partly because it rhymed with Pickle, which is what I originally wanted his last name to be, mainly because the word "pickle" is in a song we were talking about.
But THAT didn't go over well at all, as you can imagine.
And I thought maybe the second time around, I might feel more turned on.
Now, I have been dating this guy (pre-med, kind of nerdy, logical, strategic type of guy) for two years. He is smart, consistent, predictable and incredibly faithful. He has been very intentional with my parents and with his desire to love and cherish only me. There is no "magic," and I feel I could logically live without him if we broke up.
And they note that when you have crazy chemistry with a guy, his natural body smell will turn you ON--to the point where even giving his armpits a sniff after a long day will be kind of nice. "But if the thought of your imaginary baby makes you want to run out and get your tubes tied, we're pretty sure you and the guy aren't meant for each other."* * * Anyway, it's mostly CC #1 that I found helpful, particularly that one idea: We should all aim for crazy chemistry--the kind that blows our skirt up! The kind that swoops us up and throws us down on the bed! In your experience, can chemistry grow out of mutual affection, even when there's not a strong rip-your-clothes-off desire in the first place? -------------------------PS: Raye: I read your post yesterday and giggled my shorts off.
Frankly, I've never been able to have sex WITHOUT that feeling. Then I told Arlo what you said, and he was like, "Now THERE'S a woman I could do business with." ...
(On the contrary, the good ones do.) I think the problem, though, is that we look for chemistry prematurely, and we have unrealistic expectations of how far it can take us.
The way you describe your first relationships sounds like a description of a honeymoon season.